Headscarves and Hymens

Taking advantage of the fact that I now live within walking distance of Elliott Bay Bookstore, I decided to listen to Mona Eltahawy when she discussed her new book Headscarves and Hymens: Why the Middle East Needs a Sexual Revolution. It was worth every step to get there and every minute of listening. What a great spokesperson against misogyny – and not just in Islamic countries, but worldwide.

Eltahawy approaches issues from a secular perspective yet fully aware of ways that religion is often used to justify traditions that vary between communities of believers. Rather than get into the fray of “my verse” against “your verse,” Eltahawy simply evaluates practices against the criteria of whether or not they are good for women. She has not renounced her Muslim faith. She believes it is compatible with full equality for women and policies that honor the worth of every person. With her knowledge of historic figures from the Muslim faith who believed in the value of women, she challenges both religious and state authorities who perpetuate the subjugation of women.

As one who pays some attention to the news and to women’s issues globally, I was familiar with many of the practices described in the book. That said, I found it useful to have these concerns explained in more detail. What was totally refreshing was learning about the many ways that women are protesting and speaking up about abuse and restrictive policies, even in countries where governments are trying desperately to keep women under wraps.

As always, one of the saddest states is our “friend and ally” Saudi Arabia. Do we have to wait until the oil in the Kingdom is totally depleted before we pay attention to the status of women in this most absurd country? I would like the rest of the world to use all of the tactics that were applied against Apartheid in South Africa to bring change for women in Saudi Arabia. Still, I understand that the Middle East is not South Africa. While Eltahawy documents a history of feminist thought in Islamic countries, there are still many who regard feminism as a Western value. Best if change emerges from within rather that from outside pressure.

When you see Muslim women locally wearing headscarves or even the niqab, if you wonder if they feel free to do otherwise, you will appreciate Eltahawy’s extended discussion of her own choices over the years. Headscarves now carry political significance; they are cheered and jeered by men from opposite perspectives. Liberal “cultural relativists” cheer; critics of Islam jeer. This only complicates the decision women face. Truly they are damned if they do and damned if they don’t. Even in countries where women are free to veil or not to veil, it is uncomfortable to know that your decision will give comfort to either one group of men who don’t value you or to another group of men who don’t value you.

Read and weep. Read and cheer. Read and take comfort in the knowledge that women are striving for their own freedom in places where you didn’t think it was possible.

ISIS: What to Do?!

Bless Patrick Cockburn: Rather than simply blame the US, he has managed to find multiple causes for the emergence of ISIS. In The Rise of Islamic State: ISIS and the New Sunni Revolution, he considers middle east history from several perspectives. Especially interesting was his discussion of Saudi Arabia, a country which has exported Islamic fundamentalism, but is now fearing blowback from its own actions.

As one who’s inclined to avert my eyes from the middle east thinking it’s simply too much of a mess for anyone to fix, my attitude was only reinforced. Not only is the US not in a good position to help resolve anything, but countries in the thick of things are not finding easy solutions either. Nation States created after WWI never really jelled, although some enjoyed decades of uneasy peace with their diverse populations living side by side without constant bloodshed. Now? No one is safe.

With the advantage of distance, both physical and psychological, it’s clear to me that at some point communities within the diverse Muslim world will need to voice support for protection of people who have different beliefs, different points of view, different dress, different food, different cultural practices. Perhaps people who abide by these differences will spend eternity in hell, but that’s the risk they take, and it’s not your problem if they aren’t bothering you.

So, dear ISIS, there is no way out of this mess if you do not respect my right to believe things you don’t believe. I am not going to let you slaughter me just because I don’t share your beliefs, and there are many others closer to your self-proclaimed caliphate who agree. So until you chill out, we’ve got a problem.

Not Many Cared Why the World Exists

The KH selection for May was Why Does the World Exist? an Existential Detective Story by Jim Holt.To begin with, “why” questions are often irritating. Think of kids pestering adults with their ceaseless “Why, why, why.” There are a few “why” questions that can be answered. Why does water evaporate? Why do I feel colder on a windy day? Even, why is the sky blue? Fine. Good. But “Why does the world exist?” “Why do I exist?” In the end, the KH book group voted with their feet. Most simply didn’t care enough to read the book and show up to discuss it. Either they knew they wouldn’t find an answer in the end, or they didn’t even care about the question. Some who might have made an appearance simply couldn’t attend, so we had just five people present.

However. Yes, there’s a catch: However, those who did show up managed to have a good discussion both about the question, about the format of the book, about why we did or didn’t finish the book, and about the final chapters revealing the answer that satisfied the author (and at least one of us), and about his thoughts at the time of his mother’s death.

Personally, I enjoyed the book when I first read it a year ago. I found that I was less excited about reading it a second time, however. I loved the replay of the conversations with assorted philosophers and scientists who make a living pondering the reason that we have something rather than nothing. No, I couldn’t really follow the various arguments, but I sort of knew which ones made a bit of sense to me and which didn’t. And, frankly, Holt’s conclusions resonated with me: Nothing is but one of many options related to existence, hence not probable, while mediocrity is more likely than either nothing or a perfect world.

So, the likelihood of something and the probability of mediocrity works for me for now. Think knees, for example. Or allergies. Clearly (ha, nothing was clear in this book), the world isn’t perfect, and we don’t even need to talk about evil. For me, the book was a bit a romp through territory I generally avoid.

Kelleher House 2015 List

Current (to the best of my knowledge) as of August 18 2015.

January: The Boys in the Boat by Daniel James Brown
February: When We Were Orphans by Kazuo Ishiguro
March: Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Muiz
April: The Spies of Warsaw by Alan Furst
May: Why Does the World Exist by Jim Holt
June: Just food and voting. No book discussion.
September: Goldfinch by Donna Tartt and A Moveable Feast by Ernest Hemingway
October: The Great Bridge: The Epic Story of Building the Brooklyn Bridge by David McCullough
November: Being Wrong by Kathryn Schulz
December: Hotel Florida: Truth, Love, and Death in the Spanish Civil War by Amanda Vaill

Multiculturalism and Its Discontents

Kenan Malik’s small book, Multiculturalism and Its Discontents: Rethinking Diversity After 9/11, is the first book I read from Seagull Publishing’s Manifesto series. I found that it addressed an issue that I’ve been pondering frequently in the last few years, and I’ve since gone on to track down some other books from the series.

I had not really thought about multiculturalism as policy. I’d considered it an attitude: openness to people of other cultures, curiosity about how others do things, different food, dress, customs, of a positive, enriching nature. But when Malik begins by recounting the Anders Brevik murders in Norway and relating them not just to concerns about immigration in Europe, but to the policy of multiculturalism and its implications, I needed to read further.

South African Apartheid might be the ultimate example of vigorous Multiculturalism. Message: we are different, you and I; we have our values, you have yours; we’ll put you in an enclave and let you alone except when we need your labor; and no, by the way, we’re not equal. In Europe, it has played out differently, but the focus on differences is not bringing people together. So you have conservative types who are aggressively trying to remove the different ones from their society, liberal types who think it’s not polite to express concern about denying women full freedom if their “chosen” community restricts it, and tension all around.

As policy, multiculturalism begins by defining groups; we all become “other,” including the group with claims of native status. The problem is that as groups gain status, individuals may lose it. If I am viewed by legal authorities as part of a certain group, where are my rights rooted? Only within my group or with the laws or constitution of the nation. For women, especially, this is a very big deal since women have only recently obtained official recognition of their basic human rights in some communities, but clearly not all.

As they say at the end of every research article, more work is needed. I’ll be reading more on this matter!